As parents we always want the best for our kids, and we always want them to be the best people they can be. The most common feeling that most parents have over their kids is worry. Parents are always worrying about what their children are doing, what they are not doing, and what they should be doing. Parents feel that they are responsible for their children and what they should do with their lives…but that is not the case.
Our culture points a finger at parents who do not take extra care of their kids, which increases the pressure on parents to worry about their kids so that they will be known as good parents. From the moment our children are born, we feel that we are responsible for their lives and their decisions, and we dedicate our lives to molding their life into the one we envision for them.
As Gibran said “Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.” Children are born with a free mind to make their free choices about how they want to live their lives. They are free to make decisions about what they want and what they don’t want, and they are free to make their own mistakes, and learn from them.
This does not mean that you should stop caring for your children; on the contrary you should always show your love and affection for them. Children should feel that they have your unconditional love, no matter what they decide to do with their lives. Your role comes in their upbringing, and teaching them the morals and values that you want them to carry into the world… and the rest is entirely their choice.